The phrase, we all commonly use, literally means, “the state in which” therefore, it is the existing state of affairs.
If you have followed our journey or this website, you know that this letter represents a sea change. Heretofore I’ve been writing love letters to my loving wife of more than 50 years as she goes through the process of dying.
This letter is intended for you instead.
The thing about status quo is that we expect it. Most of us believe tomorrow will be like today. I’ve long held that the complete thought is actually: tomorrow will be like today, except better, if you’re an optimist or worse, if you’re a pessimist.
Regardless, it is a determination of our expectation. In civil courts the plaintiff has two options: monetary damages or injunctive relief; the latter being a return to status quo. A return to our legitimate expectation.
But, in matters of death, do we have a reasonable expectation? Today, as I was meeting with Pam’s hospice RN and communicating with her doctor, we determined that Pam has transitioned.
It means we are not status quo any longer.
As I’ve said before, if graphed, this journey is not a straight line descent. It comes in waves. By transition we mean the next descent in the death process.
For the duration of this journey, I anticipate more letters directed to those following us or walking with us through our journey.
Thanks for the prayers and comments; we are encouraged by the community and love of our family and friends. And here’s the thing about status quo: things are the same- until they’re not. Then the process begins all over again.
Yours,
Brad
2 Responses
My heart hurts so badly for you. I cannot tell you what made the instantaneous connection with you and Pam, but she just walked up as we were getting our coffee on the Arabella, and within two seconds of conversation she told me she was sick and that this might be her last sail. From that minute on we felt like sisters. Our subsequent visit to you both was so special, Brad. We remember it with joy and regret that John got sick and we had to cut it short. Sending as much love as is appropriate for you to accept from new but admiring friends.
One day there will be no more sadness and Christ will rule and reign. There will finally be peace on earth! What a day that will be…
I have not known you for long but cherish the gift you and Brad have given to so many with your strength and grace and strong faith.
Sending love to you and your family
Karen Burmood