A Fitting Memorial

This is my threefold memorial to love: love lost, love grieved and love found again. You may have noticed a common denominator here. It was

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ATK27 Happy Birthday Pam

Today would have been Pam’s birthday and this is the first birthday in over fifty years that I won’t be greeting her with a morning

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Who’s at the Helm ATK26

This week I will cross the six month mark since Pam’s passing. Frankly, while I expected an increasing amount of orderliness in my life as

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A Fresh Scent ATK 25

Recently I moved packing boxes from two houses into our already crowded condo while my new home undergoes renovations. I am hoping to assimilate most

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Grieving together

“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15. Simple. Imperative. Yesterday I had lunch with an old friend who lost her

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The Grief of a Friend

One of my son’s best friends growing up lost his wife a week ago. Watching his posts on social media, remembering the pain of my

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Day 30 ATK

“And the people of Israel wept for Moses in the plains of Moab thirty days. Then the days of weeping and mourning for Moses were

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A New Day Dawning ATK 4

Dearest Pam, Yesterday (Saturday) was a day where it seemed my ship was drifting in a sea of funk. I can’t describe it exactly, I

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One Week Out ATK 3

My Darling Pam, It seems as though all of my life I have heard that the third day following surgery is the most painful. Whether

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Disoriented ATK letter 2

Darling Pam, I remain but days living alone in this big-enough-not-too-big house that we bought together and made our home. And I have to tell

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After The Kiss letter 1

Dearest Pam, First of all, I know that you won’t be reading this letter, however, as a tribute to your decades of love and acceptance

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A Journeys End

Wednesday morning ended a journey with cancer for my youngest sister, Pam.I left home and married when Pam was 12. We really weren’t close until

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We love you Pam

There are no words to express the beauty of a life committed to Jesus-the Lover of Our Souls. Pam, your love for the Lord and

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Love you Pam

Dear Pam, I am not sure if you will hear or see this message on this side of eternity. My words of love and appreciation

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Dear Pam

Pam- everytime I got to see you, i always felt like you genuinely cared. Made me feel special and loved. Always going out of your

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Grace

I’ve only met Pam a handful of times but each time I did there was a sense of warmth around her. I’m assuming that warmth

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Kindest heart

Pam you are one of the kindest most generous people I met. We barely knew each other but you bought me the nicest winter clothes

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Transition, letter 50

Transition “transitory, not durable,” from Latin transientem (nominative transiens) “passing over or away,” present participle of transire “cross over, go over, pass over, hasten over, pass away,” from trans “across, beyond” (see trans-)

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Dear Pam

Dear Pam, Although I have never personally met you, I feel as if I know you. I live in Phoenix Arizona and have had the

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Status Quo letter 49

The phrase, we all commonly use, literally means, “the state in which” therefore, it is the existing state of affairs. If you have followed our

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Love to know you!

Dearest beautiful Pam, You are a light to all who meet you. You were my neighbor on Island Estates in Clearwater Beach. You always had

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Great Memories Created

Dearest Pam, This is Donata you sold me your condo at Horizon House. I remember how sweet and endearing you were when I asked if

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When I first met Pam

I met Pam when we were in the musical at (I believe) the Calvary Baptist church in Alton in 1970. My memory isn’t great but

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Transitions Letter 45

Darling Pam, You asked me yesterday if you are transitioning. It’s an interesting question and one that I can not answer, but it did provoke

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Pictures with Pam

Pam, it was just by chance that we met because your neighbor put her Beach Condo up for sale. What a blessing to have run

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New Year blessings

Good morning and peace to you dear Pam. On the last day of each year, I always make a special effort to reflect on all

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Friend

Pam While I’m unsure if you will hear this message, I want you and your family to know what a profound impact you made in

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Prayers

To know Pam is to know love. From her warm hugs and sweet cheek kisses, she always made me feel loved. Prayers for you all!

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Classy Lady

My dearest Pam, I have tried so many times to compose a letter to you after seeing that Brad had created such a lovely website.

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Praying for Meme’s bunnies

a FaceBook post by one of my sweet daughters… https://www.facebook.com/stories/2022455084438264/UzpfSVNDOjYwNDk1ODcxODQyNjM2Nw==/?view_single=1&source=shared_permalink&mibextid=W9rl1R

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I look around…

I just want to say hi and tell you how much I love you. I look around my house and see many things that I

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A friend forever

Dear Pam, First off, I want to say how much I am saddened by the news of your health condition. When I heard the news

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A priceless gift of time

My dearest Pam, Words cannot express my gratefulness for getting to spend this time with you. It was a priceless gift of time, love &

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The hopes and fears 40

Christmas Eve 2023 My darling Pam, The hopes and fears of all the years are met in thee tonight. Oh Little Town of Bethlehem  I

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A Hard Goodbye 39

Oh My Darling, I’m not sure why Cindy’s leaving to head home hit me so hard today. At first I thought it was the thought

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“Old” Friends

Darling Pam, I can’t resist posting this picture along with my comments. For many years Pam and Cindy have been the closest of friends, together

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Your Impact on My Life

Dear Pam, I have been putting off writing this letter because I am saddened that I cannot deliver these words in person. You have played

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Life Changing Generosity

No matter how much time passes, I will never forget your generosity and the love you expressed during the challenging years of raising my daughters.

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in our prayers, Pam

When I had a horrible twin pregnancy loss and was carrying so much sadness, Pam called to check on me and asked if she could

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I figured it out.

Dearest Pam: You alway said our relationship was like we knew each other from childhood. And now after all this time and great memories. I

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Treasured life

I have been considering what I would write for weeks Pam, but there is just so much to say. Please know that I am praying

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Pam, sweet as honey

My dearest Pam. I had the sweetest dream of you last night and all I could say in the dream to you was how beautiful

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Pam

Pam I didn’t know you until our connect group. Through Lou Ann’s love for you I have gotten to know you better. Through your faith

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Joy

Pam, While I have not known you for very long and unfortunately the visits were too infrequent, there has always been one common trait. You

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Joyful Joyful 36

Joyful Joyful We Adore Thee Darling Pam, Last night we experienced a darkness that we have not heretofore. Not that I think there is anything

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pray For Me 34

My darling, At the outset of this journey, I recall that you prayed, “ if this is the end of my life, help me to

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Dead Reckoning 32

Darling Pam, Yesterday Marc Harris send out a video link, https://bit.ly/47CJXPl and it is powerful. It’s a song by Danny Veto called, “If This is

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precious friend

Our sweet friend Pam, The first time I met you shortly after becoming beach neighbors, I knew you were one special lady. I truly admire

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Pam’s smile radiates

Brad and Pam, thank you for sharing your testimony. I smiled, I cried and I smiled again. Brad and I met almost 20 years ago

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Grateful

My husband and I have had the pleasure of sharing meals with the Greers and worshipping together in FL while we worked there for the

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Thanksgiving letter 30

“Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever! Let them thank the LORD for his steadfast love,

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the Peace of Christ 28

My dearest Pam, Colossians 3:15 says this: “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…And be thankful” It seems to me that thankfulness

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Friend

Hi Pam and Brad As we get closer to Thanksgiving we want you to know we are thankful for both of you and how much

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Gratitude

Hi Pam, I hope you’re having a good day and enjoying some of that Florida sunshine for me! Our chance meeting a few weeks ago

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Dearest buddy

Dearest Buddy Pam, Let’s take a little stroll down memory lane together, Sweetie. You and Brad were our teachers for membership class when we first

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Aunt Pam

Aunt Pam – while you aren’t technically my Aunt that is what we always knew you by. It’s been years since I’ve seen you and

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Indian Summer letter 25

Growing up in the Midwest came with a set of expectations, which I suppose is true of all people in all places. With respect to

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Wonderful Pam

Pam, you are such a wonderful child of God! You have a heart of gold, a crazy knack for making everyone you come in contact

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A sweet smile

Pam and Brad, I was introduced to Pam when I worked for Missouri General. What I remember most is Pam’s warm and friendly smile that

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Thinking of You

My wife Debi & I met you and Brad at a Keystone trip to Antigua a few years ago. You were so kind and wonderful

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Puerto Rico

I was hosting a dinner in Puerto Rico for a group of agents that included Brad and Pam. I can remember Pam walking up to

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The Enigma of Time 23

I just finished playing the mental games of Lumosity and am struck by how the simplest of tasks can become difficult when a clock is

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A beautiful blessing

Hey Pam, you and your family have been such a joy and a blessing to me through the years. You’ve even opened up your home

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Hello Pam

I was fortunate to met Pam and Brad on a sailing adventure in Croatia last year. What a beautiful couple to share their love story…

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friends and family

I couldn’t have asked for a better family for my daughter to marry into. Thank you for raising such a great man as Heath, together

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Love You

Your Love is such an Inspiration to us all, What an example you have both been to all fortunate enough to know you💓 Love and

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My Dear Friend

I’ve been trying to put my thoughts into words but am failing horribly. The words in my heart are so much better so I will

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Sweet Beautiful Pam

Dear Pam You are the most beautiful lady. You were always such an encouragement to me when I was young, just starting out in life.

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Love you always Pam

Wow, I don’t even know where to begin. Growing up with Heath as my Best Friend, Pam was like a second mom to me. I

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Girl Friend

Oh , girl friend I’m just heart broken. You know I always just had an unspoken love for you. Your kindness , your soft spoken

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Love Always

Pam, you are so precious to my heart in so many ways! I have so many wonderful memories of working together at Famous Barr, shopping

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Beautiful Lady

She has never changed! She was beautiful the day that I met her, and still is! Always beautifully dressed, always beautiful make up, just a

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Love to Pam

Hi Pam- I remember meeting you for the first time when Denis was working with you and Brad on the beach condo plans. You welcomed

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Love her heart

Pam we love your heart and smile. You have a way of making people feel special! My Pam and I will never forget our formal

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Thank you for being you

When you and Brad visited me in Chicago at Shirley Ryan, to say I was surprised would be an understatement. It was the most uplifting

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Like a Quilt

Such a daunting task – to put my thoughts and emotions about you into a letter. My mind has been swirling with all of the

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Great Lady & Mom

Pam I remember the day we meet at church and your bright smile and happy heart about the relationship your son Heath and I had

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