ATK29 a final goodbye, for now
Our Precious Pam, When I embarked upon this journey of writing you love letters I had no idea where the project would take me. I
one Last Time Alex Greer
Tonight Alex had me read a paper that she wrote for her Honors English class as homework. It moved me to tears because of the
A Fitting Memorial
This is my threefold memorial to love: love lost, love grieved and love found again. You may have noticed a common denominator here. It was
ATK28 A new life mixes with old meaning and love
This is the 28th love letter that I have written since you’ve passed and it is the first that I have actually addressed to you.
ATK27 Happy Birthday Pam
Today would have been Pam’s birthday and this is the first birthday in over fifty years that I won’t be greeting her with a morning
Who’s at the Helm ATK26
This week I will cross the six month mark since Pam’s passing. Frankly, while I expected an increasing amount of orderliness in my life as
A Fresh Scent ATK 25
Recently I moved packing boxes from two houses into our already crowded condo while my new home undergoes renovations. I am hoping to assimilate most
A Fortuitous Piece of Writing ATK21
This morning I pulled out my iPad to jot a 40th birthday letter of encouragement to a friend, the daughter of dear friends. I really
An Open Letter to Stone and Morgan ATK 20
A couple of weeks ago I went to my first wedding as a widower. Pam and I loved weddings, that special time when the love
A Liturgy For Dying Well ATK22
Pam and I so thoroughly discussed all of the points in this liturgy for dying well, that I can literally hear these verses being read
A New Day Dawns ATK18
Well, the celebration of life for Pam yesterday was all that I had hoped it would be, if not more. Thank you to all who
Thank you for always setting the bar so high
I just wanted to reach out. Although I didn’t have the honor to know Pam as well as I know Brad, today’s insights allowed me
The Micah Mandate ATK17
“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness,
Though Dead, She Speaks ATK 16
This morning I was in my home church, with my own church family and being exhorted by my own pastor for the first time in
Melancholy Moments ATK 15
Well, it has been a busy several days and yet, they have not been exactly what I expected. How many times have I said that
Two Months Since Passing ATK 14
Yesterday marked the two month line since Pam’s passing. It started off normal, but careened off track when I decided to follow up packing some
Modern Day Proverbs ATK 13
I’m not one who is normally prone to quote contemporary proverbs; but in the last 24 hours I’ve received three that have me wondering if
The Firsts That Follow Death ATK 11
Let my entire worth now be defined by your adorning love, O Lord. For in light of my dying, there is nothing else that can
If Meme Was at Graduation ATK 12
Dearest Alex, There are several things that I know Meme would be telling you if she could be here tonight. In fact, I can close
Reminiscing With a Friend ATK 10
This morning I got a call from our dear friend Jay, who was checking in on me. As we reminisced about Pam, Jay reminded me
Life Goes On, Even If We Don’t Want It To… ATK 9
“How long must we endure such piercing loss, such staggering blows, such pained goodbyes, such wrenching cost for simply loving those you’ve given us to
Coming Home to St Louis #8
Let me open myself to memories, to tears and laughter alike, touching the sorrow in my joy, and the joy in my sorrow. Let me
What’s Happening ATK #7
The following letter may concern a few of you. Heck, I think it is of concern to me. I’ve decided to post, what I originally
Grieving together
“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15. Simple. Imperative. Yesterday I had lunch with an old friend who lost her
The Grief of a Friend
One of my son’s best friends growing up lost his wife a week ago. Watching his posts on social media, remembering the pain of my
Day 30 ATK
“And the people of Israel wept for Moses in the plains of Moab thirty days. Then the days of weeping and mourning for Moses were
The Best Advice I’ve Gotten ATK 6
Dearest Pam, Rather than the ubiquitous,as well as debunked, straight line theory known as the 5 Stages of Grief, which by the way, brought no
A New Day Dawning ATK 4
Dearest Pam, Yesterday (Saturday) was a day where it seemed my ship was drifting in a sea of funk. I can’t describe it exactly, I
Grief is The Cost of Loving Someone ATK letter 5
Darling Pam, Grief is the cost of loving someone. Bonding gives us the motivation to believe that when our loved ones leave us, it is
One Week Out ATK 3
My Darling Pam, It seems as though all of my life I have heard that the third day following surgery is the most painful. Whether
Disoriented ATK letter 2
Darling Pam, I remain but days living alone in this big-enough-not-too-big house that we bought together and made our home. And I have to tell
After The Kiss letter 1
Dearest Pam, First of all, I know that you won’t be reading this letter, however, as a tribute to your decades of love and acceptance
Goodbye, for now letter 51
Darling Pam, When I began this project I had several thoughts in mind: Having restated the goals, here we go… I’m not sure what I
A Journeys End
Wednesday morning ended a journey with cancer for my youngest sister, Pam.I left home and married when Pam was 12. We really weren’t close until
My Other ‘Mom’
This woman was a second mom to me for so many years of my life. I love her so much!! As a kid, I stayed
We love you Pam
There are no words to express the beauty of a life committed to Jesus-the Lover of Our Souls. Pam, your love for the Lord and
Love you Pam
Dear Pam, I am not sure if you will hear or see this message on this side of eternity. My words of love and appreciation
Dear Pam
Pam- everytime I got to see you, i always felt like you genuinely cared. Made me feel special and loved. Always going out of your
Grace
I’ve only met Pam a handful of times but each time I did there was a sense of warmth around her. I’m assuming that warmth
Your inspiration to others
I know you may not see this but as your time is near for resting in your Farther’s arms you will be missed by more
Kindest heart
Pam you are one of the kindest most generous people I met. We barely knew each other but you bought me the nicest winter clothes
Transition, letter 50
Transition “transitory, not durable,” from Latin transientem (nominative transiens) “passing over or away,” present participle of transire “cross over, go over, pass over, hasten over, pass away,” from trans “across, beyond” (see trans-)
Dear Pam
Dear Pam, Although I have never personally met you, I feel as if I know you. I live in Phoenix Arizona and have had the
Status Quo letter 49
The phrase, we all commonly use, literally means, “the state in which” therefore, it is the existing state of affairs. If you have followed our
Reorientation letter 48
I forgot to post this letter from a few weeks ago My dearest Pam, Orienteering is the name of an activity that I have mentioned
Love to know you!
Dearest beautiful Pam, You are a light to all who meet you. You were my neighbor on Island Estates in Clearwater Beach. You always had
Great Memories Created
Dearest Pam, This is Donata you sold me your condo at Horizon House. I remember how sweet and endearing you were when I asked if
When I first met Pam
I met Pam when we were in the musical at (I believe) the Calvary Baptist church in Alton in 1970. My memory isn’t great but
A landmark binkie day approaches Letter 47
Dearest Pam, In a few days, we approach a landmark, your sister Sherry returns home. What makes this a landmark occasion is not her returning
Will my puppy miss me? Letter 46
Our family has taken another turn in Pam’s passing and each new one seems a bit more challenging than the last. The thing about this
Transitions Letter 45
Darling Pam, You asked me yesterday if you are transitioning. It’s an interesting question and one that I can not answer, but it did provoke
A Funeral Celebration Letter 44
“He whose head is in heaven need not fear to put his feet into the grave.” – Matthew Henry My darling Pam, I have put
Pictures with Pam
Pam, it was just by chance that we met because your neighbor put her Beach Condo up for sale. What a blessing to have run
Grateful, forever changed.
Sweet Pam, when I think of you my heart fills with deep gratitude. You have wept with me, held me, laughed with me and encouraged
New Year blessings
Good morning and peace to you dear Pam. On the last day of each year, I always make a special effort to reflect on all
Friend
Pam While I’m unsure if you will hear this message, I want you and your family to know what a profound impact you made in
Prayers
To know Pam is to know love. From her warm hugs and sweet cheek kisses, she always made me feel loved. Prayers for you all!
Classy Lady
My dearest Pam, I have tried so many times to compose a letter to you after seeing that Brad had created such a lovely website.
Praying for Meme’s bunnies
a FaceBook post by one of my sweet daughters… https://www.facebook.com/stories/2022455084438264/UzpfSVNDOjYwNDk1ODcxODQyNjM2Nw==/?view_single=1&source=shared_permalink&mibextid=W9rl1R
My beautiful, wonderful friend
Good morning my beautiful wonderful friend💕 It is a lovely morning and every time the sun peeks from the clouds, its warmth makes me smile.
I look around…
I just want to say hi and tell you how much I love you. I look around my house and see many things that I
How silently the wondrous gift is given 42
My dearest Pam, Recently I quoted a line from Oh Little Town of Bethlehem in one of my letters. Today I go back to this,
Rich memories from growing up with Heath
Dear Pam, Words cannot express the love and great memories I have of you in my families life. From riding in my first convertible with
A friend forever
Dear Pam, First off, I want to say how much I am saddened by the news of your health condition. When I heard the news
A priceless gift of time
My dearest Pam, Words cannot express my gratefulness for getting to spend this time with you. It was a priceless gift of time, love &
The hopes and fears 40
Christmas Eve 2023 My darling Pam, The hopes and fears of all the years are met in thee tonight. Oh Little Town of Bethlehem I

A Hard Goodbye 39
Oh My Darling, I’m not sure why Cindy’s leaving to head home hit me so hard today. At first I thought it was the thought

“Old” Friends
Darling Pam, I can’t resist posting this picture along with my comments. For many years Pam and Cindy have been the closest of friends, together
Your Impact on My Life
Dear Pam, I have been putting off writing this letter because I am saddened that I cannot deliver these words in person. You have played
Life Changing Generosity
No matter how much time passes, I will never forget your generosity and the love you expressed during the challenging years of raising my daughters.
in our prayers, Pam
When I had a horrible twin pregnancy loss and was carrying so much sadness, Pam called to check on me and asked if she could

Blessed by Pam’s powerful prayers
Brad, Thanks for sharing this letter and the site where your letters and memories of others are being posted. A few minutes ago the page
I figured it out.
Dearest Pam: You alway said our relationship was like we knew each other from childhood. And now after all this time and great memories. I
Treasured life
I have been considering what I would write for weeks Pam, but there is just so much to say. Please know that I am praying
Advent 2023, a season for hope 37
My darling, This week I received a text from a friend letting me know that he is praying for us. He went on to say
Pam, sweet as honey
My dearest Pam. I had the sweetest dream of you last night and all I could say in the dream to you was how beautiful
Pam
Pam I didn’t know you until our connect group. Through Lou Ann’s love for you I have gotten to know you better. Through your faith
Joy
Pam, While I have not known you for very long and unfortunately the visits were too infrequent, there has always been one common trait. You
Joyful Joyful 36
Joyful Joyful We Adore Thee Darling Pam, Last night we experienced a darkness that we have not heretofore. Not that I think there is anything
Receiving the Gift of Life 35
Dearest Pam, One of the things I love about you is your balanced perspective; you are generally not given to wild swings. You don’t hold
Some Mushy Stuff About Love And Soulmates
Hello Pam, Well, I am sure Brad is nearby so hello Brad as well. The idea of a soulmate seems foolish to think of for
pray For Me 34
My darling, At the outset of this journey, I recall that you prayed, “ if this is the end of my life, help me to
The Hardest Day of My Life 33
Dearest Pam, It’s impossible to grow a family, run a business or lead people without having a hard day. Hard days are like baking powder,

Dead Reckoning 32
Darling Pam, Yesterday Marc Harris send out a video link, https://bit.ly/47CJXPl and it is powerful. It’s a song by Danny Veto called, “If This is
precious friend
Our sweet friend Pam, The first time I met you shortly after becoming beach neighbors, I knew you were one special lady. I truly admire
Thanksgiving redo letter 31
My darling Pam, What a glorious day yesterday was. I’m so glad that I got some pictures to remember the day. This is from the
Pam’s smile radiates
Brad and Pam, thank you for sharing your testimony. I smiled, I cried and I smiled again. Brad and I met almost 20 years ago
Grateful
My husband and I have had the pleasure of sharing meals with the Greers and worshipping together in FL while we worked there for the

Thanksgiving letter 30
“Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever! Let them thank the LORD for his steadfast love,
A friend of Marilyn’s
Dear Pam and Brad: I had the honor to meet both of you as a friend of Marilyn when she had facilitated a luncheon in
A Heart After Her Heavenly Father & For Her Family & Friend
I first got to learn about Pam after meeting her lovely sister Sherry while we were both serving with YWAM both in Hawaii. It did
Keep Calm and Carry On 29
Keep calm and carry on 29 In the past decade a poster was discovered with a twin imperative that has become the ubiquitous basis for
Prayers, Peace, Well wishes and lots of enjoyment!
Pam, I do not know you personally, however, I do know your husband Brad through our work together in the insurance industry (I work for
the Peace of Christ 28
My dearest Pam, Colossians 3:15 says this: “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts…And be thankful” It seems to me that thankfulness
Friend
Hi Pam and Brad As we get closer to Thanksgiving we want you to know we are thankful for both of you and how much

Gratitude
Hi Pam, I hope you’re having a good day and enjoying some of that Florida sunshine for me! Our chance meeting a few weeks ago
listen, they’re playing our song letter 27
Darling Pam, The other day as we sat holding each other on the couch with music playing quietly in the background, I was suddenly aware
Dearest buddy
Dearest Buddy Pam, Let’s take a little stroll down memory lane together, Sweetie. You and Brad were our teachers for membership class when we first
You are special and loved!
Dear Pam, I woke up last night with you on my heart. As I prayed for you in the early morning hours, I was filled

Aunt Pam
Aunt Pam – while you aren’t technically my Aunt that is what we always knew you by. It’s been years since I’ve seen you and
The essence of marriage letter 26
My darling Pam, I almost titled this letter: being, the essential element of marriage, however, that seemed redundant to me. The root of the word
Indian Summer letter 25
Growing up in the Midwest came with a set of expectations, which I suppose is true of all people in all places. With respect to
Wonderful Pam
Pam, you are such a wonderful child of God! You have a heart of gold, a crazy knack for making everyone you come in contact

The Power of Words 24
Dearest Pam, As I pray for you this morning I am looking at the newly reframed word art that I did for you some nine
A sweet smile
Pam and Brad, I was introduced to Pam when I worked for Missouri General. What I remember most is Pam’s warm and friendly smile that
Thanks for the memories
Pam, I just want to say thanks for the memories. The greatest memory that I have is when you found my mother Halle for me.

Thinking of You
My wife Debi & I met you and Brad at a Keystone trip to Antigua a few years ago. You were so kind and wonderful
Our life paths have crossed
Our lives are made up of memories and experiences. You and Brad are part of some of our wonderful insurance memories! So much fun at

Puerto Rico
I was hosting a dinner in Puerto Rico for a group of agents that included Brad and Pam. I can remember Pam walking up to
You’ve Been in My Prayers
Pam, We’ve never met but I’ve known Brad for many years. When he shared about your illness I told him I would pray for you.
The Enigma of Time 23
I just finished playing the mental games of Lumosity and am struck by how the simplest of tasks can become difficult when a clock is
The seed sower and garden planter
My dearest Pam…where to start…You are kind, compassionate, selfless, wise, gentle, joyful, always see the good in others…I could go on. You have enriched my
A beautiful blessing
Hey Pam, you and your family have been such a joy and a blessing to me through the years. You’ve even opened up your home
Jenks/Long Insurance
I only met Pam a few times, but she was such a sweet lady and I was happy to meet her. Brad and family I
What Are We Doing Here 22
My dearest Pam, As I sat listening to you visit with your oldest sister last night I was arrested by the thought, “What are we
From a Daughter at Heart
I don’t recall how I came by that first invitation to Keiths court, but it changed the course of my life forever. From that first
Hello Pam
I was fortunate to met Pam and Brad on a sailing adventure in Croatia last year. What a beautiful couple to share their love story…
Pam’s Giving Nature
Pam is one of the most giving people that I know. I barely knew her yet and I was in a car accident and she

friends and family
I couldn’t have asked for a better family for my daughter to marry into. Thank you for raising such a great man as Heath, together
Providence doesn’t take you where grace won’t sustain you 21
I am not certain which letters I will post or excerpt here, but I hope todays will be a blessing to you as well as
Love You
Your Love is such an Inspiration to us all, What an example you have both been to all fortunate enough to know you💓 Love and
My Dear Friend
I’ve been trying to put my thoughts into words but am failing horribly. The words in my heart are so much better so I will

Brother
He sister you made a better dad and husband. God bless you.
What comes out when life squeezes? Letter 20
I’ve mentioned the title of this site comes from letters I have written Pam during this experience. I’m still deciding how much and which to
Hugs, love and prayers
Pam thank you for your heart and love that you gave to our Sarah several years back, by allowing her to stay wit you and
Sweet Beautiful Pam
Dear Pam You are the most beautiful lady. You were always such an encouragement to me when I was young, just starting out in life.
Love you always Pam
Wow, I don’t even know where to begin. Growing up with Heath as my Best Friend, Pam was like a second mom to me. I
Girl Friend
Oh , girl friend I’m just heart broken. You know I always just had an unspoken love for you. Your kindness , your soft spoken

Love Always
Pam, you are so precious to my heart in so many ways! I have so many wonderful memories of working together at Famous Barr, shopping
Beautiful Lady
She has never changed! She was beautiful the day that I met her, and still is! Always beautifully dressed, always beautiful make up, just a
Love to Pam
Hi Pam- I remember meeting you for the first time when Denis was working with you and Brad on the beach condo plans. You welcomed

Love her heart
Pam we love your heart and smile. You have a way of making people feel special! My Pam and I will never forget our formal
Thank you for being you
When you and Brad visited me in Chicago at Shirley Ryan, to say I was surprised would be an understatement. It was the most uplifting

Like a Quilt
Such a daunting task – to put my thoughts and emotions about you into a letter. My mind has been swirling with all of the
Great Lady & Mom
Pam I remember the day we meet at church and your bright smile and happy heart about the relationship your son Heath and I had

The babysitter and the puppy
Had fun keeping this cutie for a while until his new mom could come and retrieve him. This picture is from the first day when